每个人都是独立的个体，都有自己的性格、想法以及行为方式。

Everyone is an independent individual with their own personality, thoughts, and behavior.

强行改变只会让对方远离，让这段关系岌岌可危。

Forceful change will only keep the other person away and make this relationship precarious.

爱是彼此欣赏，接纳对方真实的样子，而不是把对方改造成你想要的样子。

Love is appreciating each other and accepting their true selves, rather than transforming them into the way you want them to be.

期待越高，落差就越大，失望和怨怼便随之而来。

The higher the expectation, the greater the gap, and disappointment and resentment follow.

真正成熟的婚姻，是降低期待，接纳不同，尊重真实。

A truly mature marriage is one that lowers expectations, accepts differences, and respects reality.

压垮孩子的，不是繁重的学业，而是父母的“过度期待”。

It is not the heavy academic workload that crushes children, but the parents' excessive expectations.

完美无瑕是奢望，生而普通才是常态，我们终究要接纳平凡，与不切实际的期望和解。

Perfection without flaws is a luxury, being born ordinary is the norm. We must eventually accept ordinary and reconcile with unrealistic expectations.

少一些改造家人的执念，多鼓励，懂得知足，方能守住幸福。

Less obsession with transforming family members, more encouragement, and understanding contentment are the key to maintaining happiness.