挫折与伤痛，遗憾与失望，每天每时每刻都在发生。

Frustration and pain, regret and disappointment, happen every day and every moment.

而人生至为重要的一个课题，就是学会允许一些意外光临。

One of the most important topics in life is to learn to allow unexpected visits.

从凡事翼求心想事成，到坦然面对现实的不尽人意，允许自身期望之外的结果出现。

From striving for success in everything, to calmly facing the unsatisfactory reality and allowing unexpected results to emerge.

一个人经历的事情越多，越会明白：“允许”是一种比控制更强大的力量。

The more things a person experiences, the more they will understand that "permission" is a stronger force than control.

就如史铁生，风华正茂的年纪遭遇疾病，双腿瘫痪。

Just like Shi Tiesheng, who was in his prime of life and suffered from illness, his legs were paralyzed.

尽管中间有过许多次无法接受，但接受之后，我们看见了著名作家史铁生。

Although there were many times we couldn't accept it, after accepting it, we saw the famous writer Shi Tiesheng.

所以，很多时候，真正伤害你的不是事情本身的超预期，而是你对它的拼命抗拒。

So, many times, what really hurts you is not the unexpected outcome of the situation itself, but your desperate resistance to it.

如果你能允许它的发生，那么再糟糕的结局也只代表结局，永远不会变成压垮你的稻草。

If you can allow it to happen, then even the worst outcome only represents the outcome and will never become a straw that will crush you.

学会放平心态，允许无常，幸福才能如期而至。

Learn to calm down and allow for impermanence, only then can happiness come as planned.